What do you do when you have no desire to pursue your husband anymore?
What do you do when you just feel like giving up on the whole thing?
Do you live in a silent divorce?
I think far too many couples are living silent divorces…and I think it’s killing their spirits.
The first couple had their doubts about one another, I’m sure…can you just imagine the arguments and resentment that came from this line:
“The man said [to God], “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Adam, Genesis 3:12
Again, I don’t want to be trite, so I’m just going to share some practical things for those of you who are hurting in your marriages…
Some Practical Advice:
Do not watch romantic movies or books – unless your husband is the 1 in million that actually acts like that guy on screen, bid it farewell or your heart will likely go into covet mode.
Take resentment and bitterness straight to the feet of Jesus, otherwise, a silent divorce will demand (and usually receive) entry into your heart.
Find encouragers – those rare friends who will challenge you to persevere, give sound advice, pray for you, and love you through the hard. Stay away from the husband bashers!
Look up as many scriptures as you can on coveting. (Wishing you had someone else’s life or husband will only make you miserable…and it’s a sin.)
PRAY. If you are weary from heart hurt, pray. If you feel like you just can’t make your marriage work, pray (because you can’t, only God can). If you don’t know what to do next, pray. PRAY.
Cling to the truth. The truth is that God’s providential hand is over your marriage. When you’re feeling depressed over your marriage or having “longing” thoughts about someone else, remember that God has you where you are, and He will use it all for His glory…and it will be good.
Find the deepest, most inner part of your being, straight from your heart to your soul, and give God every ounce of it. Man (and your husband) will fail you, it is inevitable. Find yourself – your worth and “lovability” in Him alone. You are safe with Him.
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My babes and I LOVE this CD! And don’t let all the silliness fool you (and yes, it is super silly), the lullabies on this CD are BEAUTIFUL – I actually teared up when I heard ‘You Can Always Come Home.’ I couldn’t find a song sample, but here are some of the lyrics:
There once were some sheep safe on the farm
One little Lamb go loose
The Shepard went out and carried it home
That little Lamb is you.
I love you today and I love you tomorrow
I love you as deep as the sea
I love you in joy and I love you in sorrow
You can always come home to me…
I HIGHLY recommend Slugs and Bugs and Lullabies. You will have so much fun dancing your heart out, and then in the quiet, enjoying the stillness with your babes as you lullaby together.
(Grab your babes, turn up your speakers, and dance!)
“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.” Proverbs 31:10
What is #rubychat?
#rubychat is a weekly conversation held on Twitter that brings together a gathering of women who are pursuing the heart of God.
What will we talk about?
We will pursue various topics pertaining to becoming a virtuous and godly woman, wife, mother, and home-keeper. The goal of our discussions is to learn, grow, and encourage one another in grace and truth.
When is #rubychat?
#rubychat is held on Monday nights from 9-9:30pm EST.
What do I have to do to join #rubychat?
All you have to do to join #rubychat is to get your favorite slippers on, grab your favorite drink, curl up in a comfy chair, and hop on Twitter using the hashtag #rubychat to start chatting away with other women seeking the heart of God! (A hashtag is just adding the number symbol before words to set apart a specific topic/conversation.)
Woman feels neglected…unloved…forgets what it feels like to be wanted by a man. Her heart aches. She longs for something more.
Man feels neglected…unloved…forgets what it feels like to be wanted physically by a woman. His spirit suffers. He longs for something more.
The lure of passion and excitement and freshness traps many souls to a dead end. But that need to be wanted is so powerful…life feels dull when we just get by...when we co-exist…when we except “normal.”
Are you Just getting by?
Are you longing for something more?
Is your spirit drying up within you?
I’m not going to claim to have the answers – they would all sound trite anyway – but I think I have something to offer up (to women, that is).
If you want to be pursued, be someone worth pursuing.
We are loved unconditionally by our heavenly Father once we’ve been adopted into His family, but on this cursed earth, love is a daily fight…and the enemy is in full battle armor.
Are you worth pursuing or are you just hoping that your DNA is enough?
I was asked the other day how I would define my “why?”
What is the “why” behind what I’m doing in this connective space?
The timing of this question could not have come at a better time, as this month marks a milestone for me of two years in the blogosphere. Two years of learning, growing, stretching, observing, swaying, and focusing. Two years that have gone by in a snap.
Lately, I’ve been distracted.
When I started this blog I wanted a place for women to journey together as we figure out the eternal in who we are and all we do…the good, the hard, the crazy…
I also wanted to make some money to be able to afford homeschooling supplies, as our budget didn’t allow for that expense.
I stayed on track for a long time with my vision for this place, but recently I’ve lost my way. My passion for the heart of women turning their hearts toward home has burrowed too comfortable somewhere in the deep of my being, while the desire for success has bubbled to the top.
In my God’s gracious and gentle wisdom He has allowed me to sway…but ever so quietly He has been nudging me back.
Back to the purpose.
Back to His glory.
Back to eternal.
I don’t have it figured out yet, and my flesh still creeps with the putrid oder of self. I am prone to sway.
He has me.
So, my why…
I am here to lay bare the flesh on my soul.
I am here to journey with you, faithful sisters, as our spirits transform into good, life-giving death of self.
I am here to encourage women to pursue the most beautiful calling given by our Lord – that of woman – helper-completer, soul grower, home nurturer.
I am here to have some fun and meet new friends.
I am here to earn some money for my family.
I am here to extend grace to the broken…and Jesus truth to the wanderer.
I believe that God has given me this platform for His purpose and glory, and I intend on doing my best to honor Him with my tiny piece of His grand puzzle.
I’m just a small piece…a bent and tattered piece.
One day you and I will see all the pieces together in one beautiful, glorious picture. I think one day we will be brought to our knees with how perfect it will be.
You have a piece of the puzzle as well. What is your why?