When You Want to Scrap it All

Have you ever felt like scrapping your blog and starting over?

You know, you realize that you’ve changed this or that way of thinking or you’ve grown or you’re still mulling over certain things? A published blog feels so set in stone, and yet we can delete.

I’ve thought about going back and weeding through my writing, pulling out here and there. I suppose if I cut and trim, I could leave it just so.


But then in a year or so I would probably want to weed some more.  Every year in fact, I’m sure, because by the grace of God I am changing. Growing. Maturing.

So I suppose our blogs are part of histories – how God gently morphs us to be more like Jesus in a refining process.

Some things in our pasts we wished never were, and some things we reflect back on and see how God was there, guiding us along. And as we mature, we can recognize when it is wise to speak and wise to be silent.

I so appreciate how you’ve stuck with me on my journey.  I am thankful for your gracious and wise comments, and even your “constructive” ones – they make me think!

With all this said, I’m shutting down my blog.



I’m just, you know, mulling things over…


Maybe I’m just being tempted to shut down my blog. Speaking of temptation (nice segway, eh?), check this out (grab your babes!).

35 Coffee Talks on “When You Want to Scrap it All”

  1. Dear Sarah Mae: I think I"m probably one of the "constructive" commenters. Hee hee. :) I've often thought about shutting down my own blog. Because sometimes I'm just…blech. OVER IT. And then I think: well, if I do that, then maybe I'm missing out on an opportunity to grow and learn.

    Sooooooo, don't shut down your blog!

    Because then I would be very very very sad.

    Your liberal, crazy, argumentative, sarcastic, but-ultimately-lovable friend,

    Elizabeth Esther´s last [type] ..Why Im still a conservative
    Elizabeth Esther´s last [type] ..Why Im still a conservative

  2. Jennifer says:

    You got me! LOL I was with you… thinking that I was having the same thoughts about my blog… until you said you were shutting down! Glad to hear you are just mulling things over. :)
    Jennifer´s last [type] ..Prints &amp A Giveaway
    Jennifer´s last [type] ..Prints &amp A Giveaway

  3. Erin says:

    I'm starting to think that the enemy is really working in overtime right now with some of us bloggers. I, too, have been tempted to shut down my blog and Facebook. And then I'm reminded that I'm coming to your conference in a few weeks and how irritated my husband would be if I stopped blogging after paying for me to attend the conference. :) Right now, that is what's keeping me going. And I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I just KNOW that God is going to show up in such a big way at the conference. I'm really looking forward to it.

    Thanks also for accepting my FB friend request today.


    Erin´s last [type] ..Amazing Giveaway!!
    Erin´s last [type] ..Amazing Giveaway!!

  4. Barbie says:

    Oh my gosh, I was reading this in my Google Reader, and I couldn't see anything past "I'm shutting down my blog" and my heart stopped. I mean, I know I don't comment on every post, but I do read and love your blog. Mull it over, but please remain! You are one of the first blogs I found when I starting blogging.
    Barbie´s last [type] ..Miscellany Monday
    Barbie´s last [type] ..Miscellany Monday

  5. PLEASE don't go Sarah Mae!!! I have been a follower for about 3 years now, and I have just "found" you all over again. You have encouraged and inspired me in sooo many ways and God has TRULY gifted you in your ability to be transparent and share your learnings and Biblical advice with us! You are truly a God send! THANK you for making time for us! xoxo


  6. Sarah Mae says:

    You know, the funny thing about this post, is it is one of those I would edit/delete! I crawled into bed last night and said to my hubby, "think people will think I'm trying to get the 'please don't shut it down' comments – uh oh – I was just being silly!" I do mull over posts that I'd like to go back and edit or delete (and sometimes I do) but I have no plans to shut down the blog! Promise. Maybe. ;)

  7. Christin says:

    You know what? I totally understand where you're coming from, but let me offer you some encouragement. DON'T shut down your blog. Don't even delete past posts. Because these are places that God is growing you and you want to keep them to reflect on – because guess what? As human beings, finite and fragile, we FORGET things. We will forget how we got from point A to point B and all the growing God did if we delete that from our blog (or memory, or tear the pages out of a journal). It makes for an imcomplete story-testimony-legacy.

    Don't delete. (((Hugs)))
    Christin´s last [type] ..Bible in 90 Days – Crunch Time! Help Me
    Christin´s last [type] ..Bible in 90 Days – Crunch Time! Help Me

  8. Kristy K says:

    I'm definitely feeling that way right now… which is perfect timing considering I'm going to a BLOGGING conference in two weeks and I just PAID to have my blog redesigned. Real life ministry has been pulling me away more and more and the blog (which I used to love) just seems to be a chore. Some motivation or new direction is probably needed. :)

    Glad you're not deleting your blog! Geesh.
    Kristy K´s last [type] ..Two for One
    Kristy K´s last [type] ..Two for One

  9. Southern Gal says:

    My first thought when I read your first line was "NO!" And it would be for all the reasons you stated. A blog is essentially a journal, a record of our journey in life. It's a wonderful way to see how we've grown in the Lord and it shows us our shortcomings when we go back and read. I love that about blogs.

    You didn't fool me!
    Southern Gal´s last [type] ..Wordless Wednesday
    Southern Gal´s last [type] ..Wordless Wednesday

  10. Erin M. says:

    Part of our histories. I so agree. Blogging has taken the place of scrap booking for me and it IS our history. But I know exactly what you mean.

    And I would cry if you shut down your blog. You don't want to make me cry, do you? :)
    Erin M.´s last [type] ..Joined Together
    Erin M.´s last [type] ..Joined Together

  11. Jessica Bish says:

    ah dear my heart just stopped…. I just found you and I thought I was losing you! ha. I recently started my blog purely out of inspiration from you. I can only dream of what you have. Already I know (hope) in a couple years that I'll be able to look back and see how far I've come and grown. I think our past is what makes us today – if we lose or delete that then we'll never recognize or admit how far God has brought us.

    Love ya!

    Jessica Bish´s last [type] ..Smoothie
    Jessica Bish´s last [type] ..Smoothie

  12. Kasey says:

    I so know what you mean, it's funny I've just started blogging in earnest because I hated my last one, luckily I only had one reader…..

  13. NRIGirl says:

    Hi! Glad to visit and loved the "coffee" – just the way I like it…

    Loved your blog too and of course the inspiring post about maturing in Christ. Thank you for the reminder.

    Now, when you have a moment would you care to stop by for some Coffee with Jesus?!

    ~ NRIGirl
    NRIGirl´s last [type] ..Counting our blessings
    NRIGirl´s last [type] ..Counting our blessings

  14. aubrey says:

    Funny…I just reconstructed my blog…with buttons and everything…it's me now! :) I have thought of shutting down facebook many times…but not my blog…it's my place to write my feelings and thoughts..and hopefully inspire or encourage someone else :) btw your blog is cute!!!

  15. Dionna says:

    I go back and every few "new" posts I make, I delete the oldest one. I keep a copy on my computer of course – but no one really goes through 4 years of archives anyways! So it makes me feel good that I'm slowly getting rid of old thoughts and posts. Just an idea for ya. :)

  16. LOL…that was mean! Okay, maybe not, but it was funny :) I do get where your coming from though. There are times when I look back at my writing and see how my perspective has changed or grown. While it can be tempting to use the delete button and erase what came before I think we lose the opportunity to see exactly how God has moved in our lives. Our lessons of the past are what shape us now. They are definitely worth saving.
    Kristine McGuire´s last [type] ..DVD Review and Giveaway- Bringing Up Bobby
    Kristine McGuire´s last [type] ..DVD Review and Giveaway- Bringing Up Bobby

  17. Traci says:

    I've actually been blogging since 2006 and am in the process of merging my old blogs into one. I found myself laughing and crying and groaning at some of the first posts I ever put out there in the big blog world. It was such a great time reminiscing and seeing how far I've come.

    On the other hand, I have spent most days really seeking the Lord as to what He would like me to do. Writing and posting and editing and cutting/pasting and tweaking and creating are all very time consuming and can be so tedious. So I have decided it's not about me. It's about obeying and bringing glory to my Father. That is what has brought me peace.

    I'm glad you're not 'unplugging', maybe ;), since I am still getting to know how sweet and encouraging you are. I'd like to read more.

    Traci´s last [type] ..Bizzy Honey Bees
    Traci´s last [type] ..Bizzy Honey Bees

  18. Kara says:

    Sarah Mae,

    I'm not a regular reader, so take this with a grain of salt…. but if you ever do want to shut down your blog or quit FB or whatever, by all means, do it.

    Now I have enjoyed stopping by your blog from time to time, so my 'shocking' approval of your shutting down your blog has nothing to do with your blog. And I understand that you really do not have intentions of shutting down your blog, and I understand how sometimes we don't want to own who we were two years ago, or even sometimes two months ago….. it's tempting to want to pretend like we have always been as smart as we are at our smartest moment! But THAT, dear sister, is a total trap from our enemy and ego-centric to boot.

    So what would be a good reason TO shut down your blog or FB, or twitter or whatever? Here are some I can think of:

    if it's shortening your attention span

    if you can no longer enjoy reading a book (because it lacks instant gratification)

    if you realize you are communicating in your day to day life as if you were texting

    if you find yourself very focused on yourself

    if it is stealing time from your friends

    if it is stealing time from you husband

    if it is stealing time from your kids

    if it is stealing time from your sister, ok you get the picture

    if you would like to or would like to pull away, but are afraid of what everyone who reads you would think…. after all you have an audience to think about…..

    if you are sensing the need to unplug from the Person you know as Holy Spirit, even if you can't put your finger on the 'why' just yet.

    I'm sure there are others, and I don't write this to encourage you to shut your blog down. but I won't encourage you to keep it going either. I don't know you. :) I don't know the intimate workings of the Holy Spirit in your life. I do know there are seasons in people's lives and sometimes what was right to put 'out there' at one point is, at another time, better written in a private journal that only you can access.

    I've seen today's networking technologies get in the way of people's lives. We have to stay in control of these technologies and not the other way around. While I know we must move on with technology, it's no excuse for us to develop new addictions. There's a fine line, and as Christian women, I think we need to walk it very cautiously.



  19. Rachel says:

    My heart sank a little when you said "shut down"… but then I realized that with Relevant only days away {squee} it would only be a joke… hahaha…. now don't do it again!! :) {{{{hugs}}}}
    Rachel´s last [type] ..More Sprinkles Coming Soon After This
    Rachel´s last [type] ..More Sprinkles Coming Soon After This

  20. Kristy says:

    I blogged pretty seriously for almost two years, then one day, I got a wild hair and just scrapped the whole thing…something I now really regret. I changed some ways of thinking and just didn't feel my old blog supported my new self.

    However, I have noticed I spend waaaayyyy more time with my family now…so my return to the blogging world is probably just not in the cards.

    I just recently found your blog though, and must say that it's super inspirational to me and I'd be sad to see it go!

  21. Sandy says:

    I don't think it's wrong to switch blogs! I had a personal one that I kept for years. When we moved overseas, I started a new one to share with people about our life here. I also read a blog of a foreign service wife- she changes her blog when they change countries- kind of a neat idea.

    Just make sure people know where the new blog is!
    Sandy´s last [type] ..Happy Birthday- Elisabeth!
    Sandy´s last [type] ..Happy Birthday- Elisabeth!

  22. I'm glad you're not shutting down your blog. And my boys were glued to the screen for the bible story- we clicked through to the other stories on Vimeo as well. Thank you.
    Tracy @ Hall of Fame´s last [type] ..Math Mammoth and my first grader
    Tracy @ Hall of Fame´s last [type] ..Math Mammoth and my first grader

  23. Dawn says:

    Don't even think about it – I love your blog and you are such an inspiration!

  24. Amy says:

    I love your blog–I love coming here to be encouraged–I love knowing that there are others who go through many of the same things that I do — but more than any of that, I love God! I love seeing others who desire to follow him–whatever that looks like during any given season in life.

    About a month or so ago I "dropped by" and kept seeing the words—Stop what you are doing and go read your bible right now (maybe not the exact words–but I'm sure you remember what you wrote). It was probably about 2-4 days in a row that I saw that—and I did just that (and I NEEDED to do just that!) I say this all to say that your blog has inspired me (this was just one small example) as a parent, as a wife, as a friend, and as a woman of God—-but that I also see how this whole blogging world can sometimes be a distraction from what we could (or even should) be doing. —I am not a blogger myself, so I am speaking only of what I know as a reader and one who sometimes spends too much time on the computer :).

    It's all about how the spirit of God is leading you—and if you come to a point when you know you need to shut this down– you cannot allow the fear of disappointing your readers change your mind. You only have one to answer to—and it's not us :)

    I would miss you and your encouragement—but at the same time, I would be encouraged all the same by the obedience of a fellow sister!! —supporting you either way!!

  25. Theresa says:

    I really hope you do not scrap your blog to start over. If you do you may want to consider placing ALL your posts in a folder. Before the age of blogging there was a more personal thing called journaling. It was a private way of keeping a record of your journey with the Lord. My mom would buy these 'special books' that were pretty and covered in fabric. Watching her fill these books was like watching history or our family story unfold. I believe at age 11 I asked her that when she goes to be with Jesus I would like to be passed down her pretty books (I was apparently a morbid child to think that way?). It is apart of who we are and who we have grown up to be to have these things recorded. While many are not perfect, sometimes messy, sometimes joyful, it is my mom's record of what the Lord had done in her heart throughout the years. These things are priceless IMHO so you may want to consider doing this for your DDs. God Bless!

  26. Simplegirl says:

    No, no. I love your blog, love it!!!!! Please remain.
    Simplegirl´s last [type] ..Home Remedy For Fatigue
    Simplegirl´s last [type] ..Home Remedy For Fatigue

  27. Slava says:

    Sarah, perseverance is probably the greatest quality anyone trying to achieve anything could have! Good to see you've got it! :)
    Slava´s last [type] ..Motivate your lazy self better than any coffee-pumped-up motivational speaker
    Slava´s last [type] ..Motivate your lazy self better than any coffee-pumped-up motivational speaker

  28. That's the beautiful thing about blogs…you can see the growth! When I look back at posts from two years ago and am tempted to delete/edit, I just hold my fingers back, read and thank God for the growth.

  29. eLisa says:

    Yes, I often want to scrap it all because of only one thing: I don't have enough time to do all that I want to do in almost every area of my life. When I think about what should go, the blog is the piece of the puzzle that doesn't always fit. Yet when I think long-term, with a desire to publish Bible studies and speak more, I know that my blog is a useful piece to that endeavor. So, I am at a crossroads of making a decision based on the present while trying to consider the uncertain future. Hmmm. Any advice?
    eLisa´s last [type] ..How on earth can we be kind
    eLisa´s last [type] ..How on earth can we be kind

  30. Richella says:

    Sarah Mae, I think I've told you before how much I love the Renovare' ministry (founded by Richard J. Foster). Why? Because the the whole point of this ministry is to advocate, encourage, and resource intentional living and spiritual formation. Actually, the term "spiritual transformation" might be more apt–we want to be transformed! Our lives here on earth are to be a journey of being transformed into the likeness of Jesus. We make progress as we go, with the Spirit to guide us. And while we're making progress, we certainly make some mistakes. It's one of the ways we grow! So I encourage you to be gracious with yourself and celebrate all the steps on your journey, as you look always to Jesus and his grace to transform you into his likeness. Blessings to you!
    Richella´s last [type] ..Show us your life- the kitchen
    Richella´s last [type] ..Show us your life- the kitchen

  31. Jasmine says:

    You got me!!! Wow, that was a good one. lol..

    God bless.

  32. Sarah Mae,

    I pray that you find peace and rest over the next few weeks.

    I know you must be extremely busy and feeling overwhelmed.

    Do what's meaningful, leave the rest.

    Even Jesus had to get away from the crowds after He ministered to them.


    Leslie, the Home Mak´s last [type] ..Decorating with Shutters
    Leslie, the Home Mak´s last [type] ..Decorating with Shutters

  33. Oh My Goodness Sarah Mae..you sure had me goin'. Thought for a minute you were shutting down your blog. Whew! But I do see the analogy..how Jesus gently refines our path…how we ourselves know when to pay attention. So Happy You're Not Leaving Us! Hugs, Terri

  34. Michelle says:

    I DID scrap my blog because, after all, YOU weren't reading it! (Sorry, I couldn't resist joking back!)

    Seriously, I did though, because God has changed my heart, attitude and focus on my calling as a wife and mom. After struggling with a major slump bordering on just sending them all to school and getting another life, God completely renewed my heart for Him and His calling in my life.

    I needed my blog to be another tool to focus on what is important rather than having it as a distraction! I still have the same URL right now but the title, header and design has changed!

    Most importantly though, I am changing and being renewed again through His Grace alone!
    Michelle´s last [type] ..If You Give Two Men a Match
    Michelle´s last [type] ..If You Give Two Men a Match

  35. Way to give everybody a heart attack – LOL!! (and no, you should not delete this post because it's a relief for others to see that you have the same thoughts) Though I have not shut down my blog, I totally hear you! I did go ahead and step away from it for the Summer though and I do not regret it. And I don't think you should change/delete past posts – they do show how you change and grow and make a wonderful record of a beautiful life's journey! Love you friend! Hugs! :)
    Lisa @ Stop and Smel´s last [type] ..Survey Results And A Winner
    Lisa @ Stop and Smel´s last [type] ..Survey Results And A Winner

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