Comments on: This is for all the moms who commented on my last post

By: Melissa Cummings

Melissa Cummings — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:15:51 +0000

Just now hopping into the wonderful conversation you've got going!
But oooh, I was raised purposefully to be a SAHW/SAHM. I was trained in all kinds of homemaking and mothering skills from my earliest days; the Lord was very kind! And my parents were very wise.
Transferring from my father's headship to my husband's headship was a joy and blessing, and I have never found it overwhelming whatsoever to be a keeper at home, to train my child, to serve my husband. Praise the Lord for the solid foundation He provided in my childhood! I pray that if He blesses us with daughters someday that He will give us the strength and foresight to train them in homemaking skills from their earlier days too, so that the Word of the Lord will not be blasphemed – and so that they may stand upon my shoulders, even as I have stood upon my mother's. By God's grace alone!

By: Meda

Meda — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 18:22:29 +0000

Well.., I guess I’m the “ugly duckling” here. I was certainly raised to obtain a mother degree before ALL else, as my mom use to tell ppl- “She’s going to get her “MRS” degree”. I was always told that this was the ONLY option, even though I had a lot of desire to pursue a career and was very independant. It never even occurred to me that I could work AND have children. I have followed this route for 12 + yrs and found recently w/ the economic situation I am rethinking the complete “certainity” of that belief.
While I do agree that being there for your children is soooo important.., I have seen MANY SUCCESSFUL FAMILIES WHERE THE MOM WORKED (maybe even better than a lot of SAHM families). My big concern w/ the “entering the work force” idea, is the SAFETY of my children in a wicked world- but other than that I think mom’s can do BOTH! I will raise my daughter that she has a CHOICE and discuss both options w/ her.

By: craftytammie

craftytammie — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 14:32:55 +0000

hmm. Raised to be? My mom and grandma taught me to sew and crochet, to use coupons, to garden – but as a child, I didn't think I would ever do those things. Now I'm a stay at home momma of three, living in the country. I have a BS degree in Family & Consumer Sciences(Home Ec). And I fully embrace all of those homemaker duties! Domesticity rocks!
.-= craftytammie´s last blog post … another gift done! =-.

By: tammy

tammy — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 08:24:04 +0000

My folks raised me to leave at 18. No training or thought for the future. I was LOST in so many ways. God's Amazing Grace is powerful and transforming. This posted promted me to think about how very far HE has brought me seeking me, saving me thru Jesus, sanctifing me (painful at best),and wanting to use this wretch to Glorify Himself. WOW!!! Now we try raising our family (4 children), and it is hard, to have one goal in life to :love Him with all thier hearts, minds, souls ,and strength and to love thier nieghbor as thier selves. Focusing on training our girls to be HOMEMAKERS and our boys to be Priests, providers, protectors, and profits to thier families first and then to others. This is not easy in a world where education is god and idol to so many. The battles are real. God give grace suffiecent for the task. I just have to KEEP reminding this to myself when struggling against the world. Thank you so very much for standing.

By: MonICA

MonICA — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 20:43:21 +0000

As a young girl and woman, I was not raised with any purpose at all. And as a result, I was confused when I graduated from high school because I had no identity…not even a worldly one…as opposed to my identity in Christ which I now have.
Thankful to my Abba Father for revealing to me my true identity and purpose…child of God…wife…mommy.

By: Mrs. Hewett

Mrs. Hewett — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 15:45:23 +0000

My mom was a first generation Christian on her side of the family. She and my dad deliberately made family choices that were counter-cultural because my mom was determined that her dysfunctional family background would not be passed on to her children. I am the oldest of 7 children and I was encouraged to pursue the role of wife & mother and trained as a homemaker to prepare for that future. There are gaps in that training because my mother was learning as she went along, but I was better prepared when I married 16 years ago than many are today, I think.

My dad’s family were polite but thought my parents were taking things a little overboard. His family are VERY big on academics and thought careers for women are of more value than homemaking. They didn’t understand my parents were preparing future generations and thinking with an eternal mindset. I am so thankful my parents were brave enough to live for Christ and train us as they believed God wanted them to, and were not intimidated by family opposition. It has certainly helped prepare me for the life God prepared for me.

By: Jesica

Jesica — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:34:39 +0000

Nope. My mom was a single mom who worked full time. I was pushed to excel in what interested me. I remember fast food for dinner and "city" life. I moved in with my grandparents when I was 14 (in Montana) and experienced life with both "parents" home, but was not intentionally taught homemaking skills. I was headed toward a fast paced journalism career, when God changed my heart by His saving grace. Now as a wife(since 2000) and SAHM since April of 2008, there has been a HUGE learning curve. I first felt pressure to be the "ideal" Christian woman, but have since embraced how God created me. I am learning to embrace my need for business, with the importance of a comfy, safe haven of a home!
.-= Jesica´s last blog post … Christmas Project 2009 – #2, #3, and #4 (complete with bad photos and vague tutorials) =-.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:13:20 +0000

I don't think my parents really pushed me towards anything BUT a career…and a college-educated (Master's Degree Required) degree at that! Now…I'm a SAHM! 10 years ago I would never have thought that…but I'm so happy that I met my (now) husband and that God changed my heart…he knew the whole time what I was destined to do, even when I didn't!
.-= Kristen´s last blog post … Gold's Gym in Lexington, SC….aka Used Car Salesmen Who Didn't Make The Cut =-.

By: Cherie

Cherie — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 13:20:26 +0000

Isn't it strange that there is training in almost every job situation EXCEPT motherhood! And it is the most important job a woman can ever have. We certainly all need encouragement to get through it from time to time.

Remember in the old days when high schools offered Home Economics? Those days are certainly gone!

I remember my mom trying to get me into the kitchen to learn to cook, but I was too busy working already at the age of 15. I certainly have learned a lot along the way on my own.
.-= Cherie´s last blog post … I Married a Rock Star! =-.

By: Mary Lynn

Mary Lynn — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 12:03:52 +0000

In short, I both!
I was raised to value education and expected to have an education that would provide me with an income. I graduated with an education degree and taught many years before having children. My parents taught me to be self-sufficient in many different issues of life- maintaining vehicles, house, yard, money, etc. At the same time, I was taught in words but most importantly in the lives of my mom, aunts and grandmothers, that my role as a female was to be a help-mate to a husband and a mother to any children I may have. There were periods of time where my female role models worked outside the home as well as soley as homemakers and mothers. Family and serving others always was the priority despite the season of life. I always knew that if God provided me with the opportunity to marry and have children, that my desire was to stay home with the children as long as I could. But if time, came for me to return to the classroom, I could. Teaching is far more than a 8-3 job with summers off! So returning to a daily job of teaching a room full of children with my own kids to consider as first priority will be very hard. Right now my responsiblities in ministry are more flexible. There are specifics that must be done each week but I can, for the most part, choose when I work. Even with this situation, I am often wondering if this is too much for now. And the mommy guilt continues to be heaped on…..