“…train the young women to love their husbands…” Titus 2:4
Marriage is hard, because being a sinner and loving a sinner is hard. Writing this post is hard because I know that I fail and fall way short when it comes to loving my husband.
But it is the first command in Titus 2:4…it is listed before loving my children, so I know it is important, and therefore I must persevere.
Loving my husband.
So how can I love my husband well?
I looked up love in relation to this passage, and you know what I found? This is the type of love (Philos) that is a friendly love – a companionship love.
I am to be my husband’s companion…his beloved companion.
It is why I was created.
“But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him…And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man…” Genesis 2:20,22
I am my husband’s helper-completer.
He was not made for me, I was made for him. So there it is, my first clue in loving him well – actively being his helper and companion, seeking and supporting his vision as I complete him as a person and in his work.
As his beloved companion, I am committed to giving myself, heart, mind, and body, to him and no other man. “…your husband is the one to whom your exclusive, intimate fellowship and sexual responses belong.” Barbara Mouser, Five Aspects of Woman
If this is why I was created, why then is it so hard to fulfill? Why is it so hard to love my husband?