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By: Kristi Stephens » Blog Archive » The curse and your marriage

Kristi Stephens » Blog Archive » The curse and your marriage — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 22:12:17 +0000

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By: Julie@comehaveapeace

Julie@comehaveapeace — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 12:36:29 +0000

It is so true that marriage is made of two broken people. I think it's a divine miracle anytime a man and a woman are able to blend into one and reflect God's glory … must be God's doing and His design. And I find that when I'm struggling with issues in my marriage, my Heavenly Father is the One I can go to with my unedited outpourings and know I will receive peace and direction in return.

By: Pepper

Pepper — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 21:21:09 +0000

I have struggled with letting go, but I have found that I don't want to be in charge. I don't want to be his mother I want to be his wife. It is so freeing to let go of this role that I'm not supposed to be in. .-= Pepper´s last blog post ... Super Sunday Surfing =-.

By: Kristi_runwatch

Kristi_runwatch — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:47:58 +0000

Ellen, you're right – that is a tough question!

I think as women we have to remember that ultimately we are still individually held accountable before the Lord – He is still our only source of Truth and standard of morality. Therefore, if our husbands say something is right but God says it's wrong, we submit to God and not our husbands on that point. Just like any authority – government, workplace authority, etc, if they contradict God's Word we are accountable and responsible to obey God alone. Knowingly following our husbands into sin is not a proper view of submission.

However, if our husbands are uncomfortable with something that we feel we have freedom in Christ to do, we submit to our husbands. For instance, if the wife's family of origin was comfortable with drinking wine with dinner, but her husband had a strong conviction against that, he is her head and she needs to submit to him on that point.

Our husbands have a God-given responsibility to lead us and protect us as much as they can – and they need to do their best to guard us spiritually and make sure we have opportunities to grow and deepen our walk with God. They will be held accountable for how they lead us in that manner. However, it is not my husband who can wash me and present me holy and blameless. Only Christ can do that. My husband can, however, follow the example of Christ by self-sacrificially loving me and seeking my best interest spiritually, physically, and emotionally.
.-= Kristi_runwatch´s last blog post … The curse and your marriage =-.

By: Lisa @ Stop and Smel

Lisa @ Stop and Smel — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 02:48:43 +0000

What a wonderful post Kristi!! 17 years of marriage and I still don't have it down, but hopefully I'm growing and improving. I'll be continuing to pray for His help. .-= Lisa @ Stop and Smell the Chocolates´s last blog post ... Would You Like Dessert With That? ~ Pumpkin-Ginger Pie With Golden Marshmallow Topping =-.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 00:43:45 +0000

Great Post!!! I understand the reality behind the scripture and, like a lot of other ladies on this comment trail, struggle with this. But where me and my husband get wrapped up on this is the following…if my husband is to love me as the church was loved, in order to be presented holy and blameless, where is the line drawn where my husband determines and decides my actions as wrong or right. His statement: He is held accountable for me as my leader and needs to present me as holy and blameless….

thoughts???

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 11:31:23 +0000

Wow! What and amazing article. I am so glad that I came here to read this today. I just read an article on Crosswalk titled "Traits of a Godly Wife" by Dr. John Barnett.
I call myself a Christian but I don't practice living the Biblical marriage that God wants us to have. Starting to transform my ways with my husband is going to be a long road. Thank you for writing this.
.-= Tiffany´s last blog post … Under the Microscope-Using Parables Today =-.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 07:50:13 +0000

Thought provoking!

Listening to John Piper's series on marriage (also along these lines) really helped me understand the marriage relationship. I highly recommend it!

By: Melissa Multitasking

Melissa Multitasking — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:19:17 +0000

What a beautiful post…"teach me what it looks like to submit to him out of reverence to You"…love it!
.-= Melissa Multitasking Mama´s last blog post … Thankful no matter what… =-.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:12:50 +0000

I have never thought about what Adam and Eve's relationship was like before the fall. Very interesting.

Kristi said, "Because of the curse, I do not want to be my husband’s loving helper. I want to be my husband’s ruler."

Convicting line for me. I truly desire to love, honor, respect, trust, and submit to my husband. Sometimes I don't realize the "little" manipulations I try truly are a sign of me trying to be my husband's ruler.
.-= Nikki´s last blog post … Still Life Portrait =-.